Who do you spend the most time with during the day? Who do you think most often about? Whose voice is inside your head loudest? You have a “me first” perspective, you’re always on (and in) your mind.  

So let’s use that framing in a healthy and positive way to experience moving forward. Give yourself permission to prioritize yourself and become properly selfish. What does properly selfish looks like?

• You spend the necessary time doing the necessary work to know yourself intimately.
• You know what you like and don’t like and you educate your environment to both.
• You intentionally create a lot of space so you can do the things that bring joy.
• You limit the time you give to people, projects, or other people’s projects.
• “No” becomes a favorite word (and first response).
• You tolerate nothing.

Notice nowhere above does it say “you become a sanctimonious ass”. Being properly selfish is never motivated by or accepting of harm to others. Rather, it is motivated by a genuine care for yourself in all situations. Looking for personal growth opportunities while accepting people for who and where they are. After all, they have a “me first” perspective as well.

The point? You already have a “me first” view on life. How you choose to use it is up to you.